7 Habits of Highly Successful Teens
Habit 5
5. Seek First to Understand, and then to be Understood because most
people don’t listen very well, one of the great frustrations in life is that
many don’t feel understood. This habit will ensure your teen learns the most
important communication skill there is: active listening.
Why is this habit the key to
communication? It’s because the deepest need of the human heart is to be
understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are- a unique,
one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned individual. People won’t expose their soft
middles unless they feel genuine love and understanding. Once they feel love,
however, they will tell you more than you may want to hear. People don’t care
how much you know until they know how much you care.
Listen with your eyes, heart, and
ears. 7 percent of the communication is contained in the words we use. The rest
comes from body language (53 percent) and how we say words, or the tone and feeling
reflected I our voice (40 percent).
Most people are eager to talk and had
rather talk than listen. We have one mouth and two ears. This means we should
listen twice as much as we talk. We actually learn more while listening rather
than we talk. Learn to listen and listen to learn. Listen, really listen, for understanding.
Seek first to understand then to be
understood- LISTEN.
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